On 19 January 1807 Robert Edward Lee was born to Henry and Ann (Carter) Lee in Westmoreland County, Virginia. His father, Henry Lee of Revolutionary War fame, left the family when Robert was six years old. He had left for the West Indies where he hoped to recover from ill health In his father’s absence young Robert grew very close to his beloved mother.
In 1825 the well-liked Robert Lee entered West Point to begin his long career in the military. He proved himself an adept student and in all his four years of attendance he accumulated no demerits. It wasn’t until he had been in attendance two years he was allowed a visit home. It was then he met his cousin and future wife, Mary Anne Randolph Custis, the great-granddaughter of Martha Washington. Back at school, Lee was appointed cadet adjutant, an honor for the would-be soldier. He graduated in 1829 and went on to serve in the Engineer Corps. But sadness followed success. Not long after graduating, Ann Carter Lee died, leaving Lee grief stricken. A month later Lee’s first assignment took him to what is now Fort Pulaski where plans had been made to build a fort in a marshy area. On 30 June 1831 Lee married Mary Custis. Their first child was born in 1832, followed by seven more sons and daughters, the last being born in 1846.
In 1846 war with Mexico broke out and Lee was sent West to do his part. One day while out on a reconnaissance mission Lee and his guide heard the voices of Mexican soldiers nearing them. Lee hid behind a log while many soldiers filled their canteens with water from a nearby spring. At one point a Mexican nearly stepped on Lee, but he remained undetected. When the soldiers finally cleared out Lee headed back for American lines. After nearly two years at war, Lee showed himself to be capable soldier. In June 1848 the weary soldier was headed home. In 1852 Lee became superintendent of West Point, where his eldest son was attending.

Arlington (Courtesy Library of Congress)
On 17 October 1859 Lee rushed to Harper’s Ferry where radical abolitionist John Brown was holed up with other men. Brown and his followers were holding hostages in an engine house. After offering Brown the choice of surrender and being rejected, Lee moved in. The insurgents were either killed or captured. But this wasn’t quite the end. As things began to heat up between North and South and the nation spiraled into war Lee found himself in the middle of it. Both the United States and the Confederate States governments wanted Lee for their own armies. The Confederates offered Lee the rank of brigadier general and the day after this he was promoted to colonel in the US Army. But when Lee was offered the command of forces who would invade the South, Lee declined. On 22 April 1861 Lee resigned from the Federal army. Shortly after he was made major general in the Virginia militia. In April Mary, who had favored the Union, was forced to leave her Arlington home due to a takeover by Federal troops (the home was later confiscated leaving Mary bitter). Lee wasn’t the only member of his family fighting for the Confederacy,. His sons, William Henry Fitzhugh and Robert Jr. had also taken up arms. When General Joseph Johnston was wounded at the Battle of Seven Pines (1862) Lee was appointed commander of the Army of Northern Virginia.
In addition to his other merits as a soldier Lee was also levelheaded. Once he rode out ahead of his staff and returned a short time later. He remarked to the men “a Yankee sharpshooter came near killing me just now”. The bullet had grazed his face. Lee was also popular with the common soldiers who affectionately referred to their leader as “Marse Robert”.

Lee with son (left) and aide (right) (Courtesy Library of Congress)
While Lee did relish victories he was also forced to endure defeats. At the Battle of Antietam in Sharpsburg, Maryland (we observed the 150th anniversary of this bloodbath last September) Lee managed to stand up against Union forces but at an enormous cost of lives. Prior to the battle two Hoosier soldiers found Lee’s Special Orders 191 wrapped around cigars and lying on the ground. These plans found their way to Union general, George B. McClellan. Without going into details, Antietam ended in a stalemate. The next month Lee had another blow dealt to him. His adult daughter, Anne, had died in North Carolina after suffering from typhoid. By this time Lee’s health was failing him and his heart had began deteriorating. In addition to fighting Yankees he was also forced to battle sickness.
Lee sometimes underestimated his Yankee opponents which at times proved costly. At the Battle of Chancellorsville he made this mistake by believing a decoded message which had been intercepted by the Confederates. What Lee didn’t know was that General Joseph Hooker had tricked him and had purposefully sent the message in a code the Rebels would know. Lee realized his goof later and hurried to correct it. The Confederates carried the victory but it was dear bought. Casualties ran high and Lee had lost capable officer Thomas “Stonewall” Jackson to death. When he learned that Jackson had lost his arm to amputation Lee said “he had lost his left arm but I have lost my right”.
After the Battle of Gettysburg Lee was ready to give up. He wrote Confederate President Jefferson Davis, suggesting he find another commander. But Davis would have none of it. Lee was tired and unwell and it is understandable he would want to call it quits. He was nearing sixty-years-old and he was still ailing from illness. Lee was a steadfast Christian and his faith in God helped to sustain him in the dark days of war.

Lee leaving McLean House (Courtesy Library of Congress)
The war was nearing an end. April 1865 saw Lee’s decision to talk peace with Union general, Ulysses S. Grant. The surrender took place at the McLean House at Appomattox Court House, Virginia. Days later Lee left for Richmond where he met with his family, Mary and their two daughters. Sometime after the surrender the Federal government tried to indict Lee for treason, something the surrender had not allowed for as long as Lee and others obeyed the terms. After writing Grant, Lee learned that they would not be going through with it. On October 2, Lee took an oath of allegiance to became a US citizen again. But it wasn’t until 1975 he became one, as his paperwork had gotten separated.
Lee’s post-Antebellum life wasn’t spent in idleness. He became president of the Washington College (later Washington and Lee University). In 1870 Lee toured the southeastern states in an effort to recuperate his health. On the tour he visited the graves of his father and his daughter. Unfortunately, soon after returning home he caught a cold and suffered a stroke He died on 12 October 1870.

Interesting piece of American history.
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Thanks for your comment. And yes I have seen your two history posts, both of which I found interesting.
What a good telling of Lee’s life! Thanks for writing this and sharing it with us;as a Civil War buff I can never learn too much about the leaders and Lee is a fave of mine to study. That is also you’ve gotten some good pics there!
Thank you! There are several people is history that I count among my ‘favorites’ Lee being one of them. He led such an interesting life, it’s sad it ended so early. Thank your for your comment.
Thanks for this nice look at the life of a great General.
You’re welcome, thanks for your comment.
Wow. I learned some new facts on General Lee. I grew up in the south and went to Robert E. Lee HS. It is good to learn about all aspects of countrie’s history. Thanks for another great write up J. G.
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You’re welcome and thank you! Your comment got me to wondering if there were any schools in the North named after Lee. Thanks for your comment.
I actually went to HS in Montgomery, AL! I am a military brat. I moved to the Pacific NW 20 years ago and never left. I am a left coast kind of gal! lol Mom still lives in AL though. My school is so delapidated that it makes me sick. It needs to be torn down. Very sad.
Oh, that’s too bad about it having deteriorated.
Excellent job!
Thank you!
Even being a Northerner, how could I not like Lee, with a name like mine!! I toured many Civil War sites summer, 2011, and the more I learned, the more I learned how well-respected Lee was by both sides. Well written, easy to read article.
I wonder if or how closely you are related to this Lee? Lee wasn’t an arrogant blowhard like some people (Custer’s face comes to mind. Custer buffs are gonna get me for that wisecrack!) which is one of the reason I respect Lee. How lucky you are to have gotten to visit the sites! Last month we were through Corydon, IN where a Civil War battle was fought in 1863. If they had any sites to see we didn’t have time to look.
Thanks for your comment!
Well, since Lee is my middle name, I’m not related at all. My only famous relative was rich man, Robert Morris, of the Revolutionary War. Unfortunately he ended up in the poor house. I got to go see his grave last summer as well, and since I was a relative the docent let me ring the Liberty Bell Look-A-Like. The bell in Christ’s Church is identical, but a little older, and not cracked. That was an inspiring experience.
Ah, I see. Yes, I’ve heard of Robert Morris and had considered doing a post on him in the future. That’s neat that you’re related to him. It’s a pity how he helped to finance the Revolution and then ended up in debtor’s prison. Seems the government would have given him a break. But then there was a lot of that after the Revolution.
The government did after a short time. He was good friends with George Washington, and George helped him get out. I don’t think it was as bad for him as it probably was for most debtors! That’s a practice that never made sense to me!!!
Nor to me!
While there are more colorful personalities than Lee’s in the Civil War, I find Lee’s the most compelling. There are a lot of life and leadership lessons to be learned from Lee’s life and we would be better off if more folks used him as an example.
Yes he was a good role model. And to think he wasn’t bitter after all of the losses he had suffered. Thanks for your comments.
I have visited Washington and Lee University and have seen his tomb. Thanks for this post!
Lucky you! Thanks for your comment.
I learned a lot more of Lee than I thought I knew! Great summary of his life.
Thank you, I’m glad you learned some things.
I was being taught a lot about Civil War leader way back in third and fourth grade. I distinctly remember reading a J. E. B. Stuart biography and another story entitled “Iron Scouts of the Confederacy”. I’ve read the latter many times over since then and still have a copy of it. Thanks for your comment.
Gen Lee has always been one of my favorite historical figures. You wrote an honorable tribute to him. Patty
Thank you, he’s one of my favorites too.
Lee was a great general. Without him, the Confederacy likely would have been finished at least a year earlier. Just as importantly, Lee was a great man. He reminds me of Washington in many respects.
Indeed he was. The Confederacy was lucky to have him. I do wonder how things would have gone had he sided with the North though. I was surprised to learn much of his family objected to secession. How curious! Thanks for your comment.
Such an interesting character, thanks J. G!!
You’re welcome, Patricia. Thanks for your comment!
I think Lee’s engineering skills tend to be forgotten by many and I’m glad you mentioned his duty at Fort Pulaski. When you visit Fort Pulaski and see what it is built on, you truly get an understanding of what a difficult task he had in front of him.
Yes, that had to be a task. I certainly don’t envy Lee in having had to do that! If I’m ever down in Georgia I’ll be sure to look this place up.
Fort Pulaski National Monument is a good one to visit. There is also a park on Tybee Island at the site of the Federal batteries that reduced the fort. We’re also lucky enough to have Fort McAllister one county south that shows how fortification changed during the Civil War.
Wow, lots of history in Georgia! I live about 40 miles from Lincoln Boyhood National Memorial, but have never visited it. Maybe one day.
This is, as is always the case for your blog, such a great and enjoyable post!
I got one question though: when at the end of your post you say it was not until 1975 that Gen Lee became a U.S. citizen again, is that a typo or did it really take over one century for him to obtain posthumous citizenship??? Thanks for clarifying this.
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No it isn’t a typo, it really did take that long. From what I understand his paperwork got separated and it wasn’t reunited until some years later. Kind of late for Lee, but at least he got his citizenship in the end. Thanks for your comment!
Great museum in Lexington, VA on the grounds of Washington and Lee. The family graveyard is there under the chapel as is the family museum. It’s free to but they like a donation. Traveler, Lee’s horse, is buried right outside the chapel. They also have a nice bookstore so beware
Great post on a real gentleman soldier.
“They also have a nice bookstore so beware”
Haha, I’ll bet! Bibliophiles and bookstores are often a dangerous combination. Maybe I should avoid this part if I’m ever down there.
I wanted to include a photo of Lee and Traveller, but forgot to.
If anyone is interested Bruce did an interesting post on Lee here: http://broeder10.wordpress.com/2012/09/18/general-lees-resting-place/
Very kind of you J.G. Thanks. Some how I don’t see you staying out of a bookstore!
You’re welcome.
Yeah, that would be something of a task!
Thanks for this J.G. I had a nice spike in views because of it. Your recommendation carries weight
That’s good to hear!
Excellent post. A good choice of material and well-written. Thanks for this.
You’re welcome and thanks!
I’ve chased Lee around Texas…., some of his earliest commands can be found here.
Lee certainly got around. There are many curious what-ifs in history and it is interesting to contemplate them. Such as what would have happened had the Mexican soldiers discovered Lee in hiding? Thanks for your comment and for stopping by.
Actually the real Lee was nothing like he is so often shown — he did not “decide to talk peace” — rather, he finally reached a point he was in physical danger, for the first time in the war, and hurriedly surrendered. He was all for OTHERS to fight to death, but he sure as hello wasn’t going to risk his pretty clothes.
One telling thing about his surrender, he spend a couple hours getting all cleaned up, looking like he just walked out of a clothing store. He was a vain man.
As for his “honor” — what kind of honorable man screams at slave girls as he has them whipped? Because Lee did that. In fact, Lee was a cruel slave master, crueler than most. While Douglas Southall Freeman insisted his slaves loved him, and they knew him best, actually Lee’s slaves hated him — with reason. According to Lee’s own slave ledgers and letters, Lee had more than whipping as a torture for slaves, he also had slave tortured other ways. And he regularly separated the mothers from their children — as punishment.
The real Lee has been covered by myth, but thanks to his extensive slave ledgers, written in his own hand, that will not last, unless his family finally destroys them. Lee’s letters and slave ledgers show a drastically different reality than the goofy adoration that has passed for “scholarship” so far.
As I say and believe, everyone is entitled to their opinions. I thank you for your comment.
A couple of years ago I had heard of something like this in passing. An article in Civil War Times, I think it was. Never got around to reading any in depth account of it, but perhaps when I get the time some research is in order. At the time it had come as a major shocker.
I really enjoyed this article. I think in the U.K. General Lee may be the most familiar name from the American Civil War and I always wondered what happened to him after the war. He seems to have been a generally good guy regardless of the pros and cons of the protagonists.
That’s good to hear. And how interesting that Lee is a familiar name in the UK. I knew that Great Britain and the Confederacy had been ‘connected’ in the Civil War, but I never realized how much until the other day while reading about CSS Shenanadoah. Thank you for your comment!